Shut Up More
Don’t underestimate silence. Your charm’s going to fall on what you don’t say, so hold back sometimes.
Look, we know, social media makes it tempting, but you r e a l l y y y don’t have to give your input on everything and anything. You devalue yourself by doing that.
When you’re constantly shoving your thoughts and opinions on people, here’s what may follow:
They recognize, they think you’re overcompensating for something, often a lack of intelligence.
They recognize, they think you’re virtue signaling.
You increase your chances of talking about something you don’t know (it gets hard when you always need new material).
None of these help you in any way.
*Reminder: The more opinions you have, the less each of them matter.
It’s okay to not know something, and even if you do, it’s okay to sit a conversation out. Your voice doesn’t have to be the most heard, it’s actually better if it isn’t.
*Side rant: When you do talk, make sure you’re not full of sh*t – if you didn’t see that movie they were referring to, don’t nod your head and say yes when they ask you. Don’t even say “I've seen bits of it”. This is the WORST kind of person. SIT THAT CONVERSATION OUT.
It doesn’t just stop at opinions.
In New York, the more you talk, the more you lose respect. We want to see action.
Nobody respects big talkers, because nobody wants to feel like they’re getting sold.
If you’re trying to “pitch” something, have a f*cking conversation. Don’t babble off about how you’re dIsRupTinG your industry.
Let them ask questions and learn by themselves.
There’s a difference between owning your accomplishments and being a used car salesman.
You ever go to a party and meet someone who immediately starts babbling about their “genius” app idea? It’s been 2 minutes and you already feel like you’re getting got.
People respect mystery. They’re not going to care to know more about you if you already told them everything.
*There’s nothing else to talk about!
Now, if that app casually came up in a genuine, organic conversation, you might be engaged. You’ll even ask questions (maybe), because you’re curious.. suddenly there’s a sense of respect.
It’s key to keep people on their toes. Let them see what you’re capable of for themselves – hitting someone when they don’t expect it will always have a stronger impact.
Let your actions speak for themselves, the ones who matter will notice.