Depression: Not a personality trait.

POV: It’s 2021, your newsfeed is flooded with aesthetically pleasing mental health iNfOgRapHiCs, dumb memes, & neologism.

Mental health has become the new sneaker release that everyone has to hop on the bandwagon for.

“Yo bro you cop that new depression?”

“Nah, i’m waiting on Saturday for the anxiety drop..” 

Why does society romanticize mental health struggles as a cute fluffy concept? 

Let’s talk about the sAd bOi – who the f*ck is he? Why is this acceptable?

The term “Sad Boi” (popularized on social media) is one of many terms that mask the real issues surrounding mental health. 

A Sad Boi uses his sadness (feigned or actual) as an excuse for his f*ckboy behavior and covers sh*t up with self deprecation. He claims that he’s in touch with his emotions and is aware of his flaws – but, (and this is key), never actually fixes them. He glorifies his sadness because it’s trendy and uses it for attention. (via Urban Dictionary).

In other words, Sad Boi culture is another justification for not having to confront your feelings and being toxic.

You see how dumb this sh*t is?

Being “sad” is not quirky or cute – it’s real and raw. 

Look, we’re happy that mental health is finally a conversation – but let’s make sure that conversation doesn't end there.

Acknowledging your struggles is a great first step, but if you feel you should work on something – take the action (text us, we’ll help you figure it out: (646) 328-6774).  

Reminder: We want to work on our mental health struggles – not list them as personality traits on our dating profiles.

This article was written in collaboration with 24helps contributor, Lauren Valenzuela :)